Adam and I just celebrated our 28th anniversary. We are also best friends, I can't imagine it being otherwise. When I was younger I naively thought that once a couple had been married say ten years or so, they could be confident of a marriage that could not fail. When our marriage hit some serious bumps after 20 years, I was shocked! How could this happen? What was it that we hadn't yet worked out after all this time? I'm blessed that we were able to work through our difficulties, and in the process our marriage has only become stronger. If I were to call on one idea for a happy marriage, it would humility. Humility is necessary for us to be able to set our "ego stories" aside in order to truly hear and hold space for our spouse, to respect their experience. Humility helps us to avoid getting caught up in judgements of good/bad, right/wrong, when we disagree. We all want to be truly seen, heard, valued. It's important to keep doing that for each other.
"We all want to be truly seen, heard, valued."--yes. That is so true and can be forgotten in the heat of the moment but it such a beautiful thing to do for one another.
Adam and I just celebrated our 28th anniversary. We are also best friends, I can't imagine it being otherwise. When I was younger I naively thought that once a couple had been married say ten years or so, they could be confident of a marriage that could not fail. When our marriage hit some serious bumps after 20 years, I was shocked! How could this happen? What was it that we hadn't yet worked out after all this time? I'm blessed that we were able to work through our difficulties, and in the process our marriage has only become stronger. If I were to call on one idea for a happy marriage, it would humility. Humility is necessary for us to be able to set our "ego stories" aside in order to truly hear and hold space for our spouse, to respect their experience. Humility helps us to avoid getting caught up in judgements of good/bad, right/wrong, when we disagree. We all want to be truly seen, heard, valued. It's important to keep doing that for each other.
"We all want to be truly seen, heard, valued."--yes. That is so true and can be forgotten in the heat of the moment but it such a beautiful thing to do for one another.